Ah — the elephant in the room: the outfit request.
Outfit requests from clients can be divisive.
Some GFE escorts don’t mind — or even like — receiving outfit requests; some absolutely hate them.
Personally, I fall somewhere in between. While I understand the sentiment behind wanting to ask for specific attire, I cannot help but find it a bit presumptuous. I get that that isn’t necessarily how it was intended, but that is how it can come across.
But it’s ok, because here I am again, to help with all your questions of escort etiquette!
The outfit request is a delicate thing, because on the one hand, I truly do understand the excitement of this experience.
I understand being excited and wanting our date to live up to your every fantasy. Personally, I would never want someone to feel let down, and if you have a specific idea in mind, then I would like to meet that if I can.
But — and it’s kind of a big, peachy but — at the same time, an outfit request is the kind of thing that, coming from a stranger, can feel pushy, entitled — or just plain annoying. And unfortunately, I have a fairly low tolerance for being annoyed (especially before my morning coffee).
A friendly reminder that if you’re going to send annoying emails, please do so later in the day so that you can be sure I’ve had at least one coffee. You’ll get full pissed-off smart-arse and I’ll probably block you if you send me something stupid before noon.
— Rachel Fox 🇬🇧 London + FMTY (@RachelFoxLondon) July 14, 2023
There is a big difference between asking for a specific outfit from a picture you have seen online and giving a general suggestion of what might work for our date.
There are definitely better and worse types of outfit requests.
It isn’t especially helpful to me to be told, please wear the dress from x photo.’ What if the dress is at the dry cleaner that day? What if I decided to give it away to a friend? What if I’m on tour and I don’t have it packed in my suitcase? Now I’m stressed and worried that whatever I choose instead will be a disappointment to you — this isn’t how I like to begin my dates. And I know it isn’t what you want for me, either, if you take a moment to think about it.
This also applies to lingerie requests. I’m glad you love that picture of me in that one set — and sure, I will try and accommodate it if I can — but I have so many others to choose from. Plus, I get excited picking out a specific set to suit a specific day and date and person. (Plus, honestly, some of the stuff that photographs well is not practical to wear on a six-hour dinner date. And I know you don’t want me to be uncomfortable all night.)
What is useful to me is an idea of what you like, or what you have in mind as a vibe for our date.
Tell me, for instance, if you’re a casual person and you’ll be in jeans and would like for me to be comfortable, too. This is extremely useful for me to know.
Or on the flip side, we might have chosen a fancy restaurant, and you might let me know you’re excited for the chance to dress up — to celebrate and sip bubbles together. Again, useful for me to know — I’ll try to oblige. Throw in cab fare or an Uber gift card, and maybe I’ll even pull out the Louboutins…
If you still have an incredibly specific idea of what you would like to see me in, then your best bet is to gift it to me.
I often find that even my pre-caffeinated self can overcome a little irritation when faced with a present (funny how that works).
My favourite lingerie brands are here if you’d like some inspiration, and if you’d like to go off script, good luck to you. I hope you make good choices! (FYI I am a size 32E and a S/M in lingerie, a size 37 in Louboutin, and a size window seat in plane tickets).
A gift always goes down well… no pun intended…
He said, “take yourself shopping before our date” and I said “hmm ok then if you insist I guess…” 🥰🥰 pic.twitter.com/S0c9sOkcjh
— Rachel Fox 🇬🇧 London + FMTY (@RachelFoxLondon) January 18, 2024
Think about the type of date you have booked.
Sounds like it should go without saying, but you would be surprised at some of the inappropriate outfit requests I have received!
If you’re asking for a one-hour incall in the middle of a weekday, then I can promise you one thing: I will not be wearing that green dress and those Louboutins. Ditto a morning coffee or brunch date.
The thing about an outfit request is that it has to make sense for the date. I know how to dress myself appropriately for what we are doing. I am not going to sit in a coffee shop in the daytime in the same outfit I wore to a three-star tasting menu just bc you liked that photo.
— Rachel Fox 🇬🇧 London + FMTY (@RachelFoxLondon) February 5, 2024
Now — if we’ve made plans to grab a cappuccino and have a little stroll, and maybe you happen to casually tell me in advance that you love activewear — perfect! Noted.
By the same token, if we are going to a Michelin-starred tasting menu, I probably won’t want to turn up in shorts and trainers. So if that’s your outfit thing, then maybe let’s get a cheeseburger and a beer instead?
Come sit next to me, so I can look at you the way I’m looking at this cheeseburger 🍔 pic.twitter.com/1I2pDaVcxZ
— Rachel Fox 🇬🇧 London, Paris, FMTY (@RachelFoxLondon) March 6, 2023
But if you do ask me to dress in a little black dress and big heels, then we should not be going to a brightly-lit chain full of families. (I mean, I’m no snob, but come on. I cannot sit all cleavage and Louboutins in a Zizzi.)
At the end of the day, I know how to dress myself —
and I will select an appropriate outfit for the date that we have together.
I’m thirty-something years old. I know what looks good on me.
Take me out? pic.twitter.com/sYQhxQL59v
— Rachel Fox 🇬🇧 London + FMTY (@RachelFoxLondon) January 25, 2024
If you have chosen to meet me, then it is probably because you like what you see in my pictures. So why would that suddenly change when I’m meeting you?!
Rachel
